Sometimes I find myself simply staring at the small, innocent face of my youngest daughter, marveling at the core of steel within. Amazed by how quickly she learns, and how much personality is packed into that 23-pound body.
Because my two older children are technically my stepchildren, I did not get to be part of this stage of their lives. My eldest was 8 and my middle child 5 when I met their father. Still, I fell in love with them as much as I did with their Daddy. Circumstances led our family on a crazy dance for years, with counselors and diagnoses, visits from the police and Children’s Services, court hearings and orders and joy and heartbreak, IEP meetings and visits and protective orders. Things are calmer now, though not completely perfect. Yet… I am content. I’ve never been happier in my life. There are a few things that I could wish for, but I’d rather enjoy the now.
The now that includes watching my son, 15 years, and my younger daughter, 19 months, play on the swing set, or snuggle and hug. That cannot wait to visit my older daughter, 19 years, and see her with her siblings again.
But the toddler – I never knew I could like little kids. I never really did. I have no siblings, didn’t babysit much as a teen, and basically wasn’t interested. I knew I wanted to be a Mommy, but it was purely selfish. Things have changed. I’d give anything for my children. I’d take a bullet for them – or use one if necessary. Having a baby at age 39 made that feeling stronger if anything. I loved the older two… But adding a third at least tripled the love.
I wish I could have seen the other two learn how to walk and how to imitate, and heard their first words. The toddler is adding words at an incredible pace right now – this morning she identified an animal as an “owfet” without me saying anything. If there’s water on the floor, it’s “methie”; she adores playing “ouside” or watching a “moofie”. And then for breakfast she had “boobays” in a cup with a “buggle” on the side.
She’s opinionated as all get out. If you want her to wear a certain pair of shoes, you better hope they are the ones she wants to wear as well. She wants to share food – on her terms. “Beebee” has to have “banket” and she loves to stand in front of the dispenser and ask for “ice”. The dog is “Bahtah”, one cat is “Eye-tha”, and she refuses to call her brother any name at all.
And, yes, she is the resident safety expert. She insists that the baby gates be closed, even if we are leaving, and that all cabinet locks are put on and closed properly. Doors must be shut (even if we are trying to get some air in the house).
And when she is being diapered, she frequently requests “packo”. (Resinol looks like dental impression media and has the consistency of wall spackle.)
I’m kind of glad I missed the eldest’s poop art… But otherwise, seeing the baby grow up (so very quickly), and knowing I get to help pack this one’s baggage… Helps.
Especially when I tell the guests at her wedding about her love of “boobays”.